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		<title>By: Why You Should Be A Superhero &#171; Shennandoah Diaz&#039;s Blog</title>
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		<dc:creator>Why You Should Be A Superhero &#171; Shennandoah Diaz&#039;s Blog</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 14:43:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] many people scrape by, miserable, alone, full of regret. My friend Lark Neville wrote a great post on why so many people don&#8217;t go after the life they want. It&#8217;s so easy to come up with [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] many people scrape by, miserable, alone, full of regret. My friend Lark Neville wrote a great post on why so many people don&#8217;t go after the life they want. It&#8217;s so easy to come up with [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Carol</title>
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		<dc:creator>Carol</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 16 May 2010 17:10:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow, this post really spoke to me.

I wish I&#039;d read it years ago.

Being and doing what others want in an effort to make &lt;i&gt;them&lt;/i&gt; happy can take you to some very dark places of the soul.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow, this post really spoke to me.</p>
<p>I wish I&#8217;d read it years ago.</p>
<p>Being and doing what others want in an effort to make <i>them</i> happy can take you to some very dark places of the soul.</p>
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		<title>By: Tisch Cistrunk-Parmelee</title>
		<link>http://www.larkneville.com/abiglife/comment-page-1/#comment-424</link>
		<dc:creator>Tisch Cistrunk-Parmelee</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 14 May 2010 05:54:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This is very thought-provoking. I love it. I have too many talented friends in my life who allow others to define them. I want to take their pain and misery away, but I can&#039;t. I will be forwarding this to them. 

I, like you, have tried to settle, do what&#039;s expected, got 2 weeks away from joining the Marine Corps, even.  The Universe let me know several times that I have other things to do. I have to be ME, even if it kills me. Doesn&#039;t always make for a harmonious existence, though.  People came out of the woodworks to &quot;put be back on the right path&quot; so to speak. It reminds me of that phrase, &quot;If you want peace, prepare for war.&quot; I used to fight those that opposed me being ME.  That was tiring and the battle wounds took awhile to heal. I now have ingenious ways of side-stepping those who try to block me... on many levels. 

Because I choose to go around, that inflames people, and makes them come after me harder, JUST TO SHOW ME THEY&#039;RE RIGHT.  Should I choose to engage with their &quot;efforts&quot;, I react with peaceful detachment. I let them know that while their heart is in the right place (even though it&#039;s really their ego on the rampage), this is my life. They can choose to witness it or find somewhere else to be. Then I move on.  

My opinion about the media&#039;s message that we&#039;re not good enough? It&#039;s a money thing. If we&#039;re happy and feel good about ourselves, we don&#039;t spend money. Insecurity is a cash cow for big business.

Having yammered on, I must say that I LOVE having you as my cheerleader! You&#039;ve no earthly idea how much your support means to me. It chokes me up to think about it. I adore and deeply treasure you and all you&#039;re bringing to the world. *BSH*</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is very thought-provoking. I love it. I have too many talented friends in my life who allow others to define them. I want to take their pain and misery away, but I can&#8217;t. I will be forwarding this to them. </p>
<p>I, like you, have tried to settle, do what&#8217;s expected, got 2 weeks away from joining the Marine Corps, even.  The Universe let me know several times that I have other things to do. I have to be ME, even if it kills me. Doesn&#8217;t always make for a harmonious existence, though.  People came out of the woodworks to &#8220;put be back on the right path&#8221; so to speak. It reminds me of that phrase, &#8220;If you want peace, prepare for war.&#8221; I used to fight those that opposed me being ME.  That was tiring and the battle wounds took awhile to heal. I now have ingenious ways of side-stepping those who try to block me&#8230; on many levels. </p>
<p>Because I choose to go around, that inflames people, and makes them come after me harder, JUST TO SHOW ME THEY&#8217;RE RIGHT.  Should I choose to engage with their &#8220;efforts&#8221;, I react with peaceful detachment. I let them know that while their heart is in the right place (even though it&#8217;s really their ego on the rampage), this is my life. They can choose to witness it or find somewhere else to be. Then I move on.  </p>
<p>My opinion about the media&#8217;s message that we&#8217;re not good enough? It&#8217;s a money thing. If we&#8217;re happy and feel good about ourselves, we don&#8217;t spend money. Insecurity is a cash cow for big business.</p>
<p>Having yammered on, I must say that I LOVE having you as my cheerleader! You&#8217;ve no earthly idea how much your support means to me. It chokes me up to think about it. I adore and deeply treasure you and all you&#8217;re bringing to the world. *BSH*</p>
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		<title>By: Jamie (@JamieDeBree)</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jamie (@JamieDeBree)</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 13 May 2010 21:35:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The good news is, after you take one step, then another, and then another, it gets much easier to be your &quot;authentic self&quot; as opposed to the one people want/expect you to be. And just stepping out of those boundaries and embracing your true nature really goes a long ways towards finding the confidence to go after your dreams, no matter what might stand in the way. For me, that was the biggest key. Finding the courage to step away from what my parents and those around me thought I *should* be.  

While I&#039;m not living my dreams just yet, I&#039;m a lot closer and far more confident than I ever have been before that someday, I&#039;ll reach them. It&#039;s a lot easier now than it used to be. And I&#039;d encourage you in your journey as well - be strong &amp; have faith. :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The good news is, after you take one step, then another, and then another, it gets much easier to be your &#8220;authentic self&#8221; as opposed to the one people want/expect you to be. And just stepping out of those boundaries and embracing your true nature really goes a long ways towards finding the confidence to go after your dreams, no matter what might stand in the way. For me, that was the biggest key. Finding the courage to step away from what my parents and those around me thought I *should* be.  </p>
<p>While I&#8217;m not living my dreams just yet, I&#8217;m a lot closer and far more confident than I ever have been before that someday, I&#8217;ll reach them. It&#8217;s a lot easier now than it used to be. And I&#8217;d encourage you in your journey as well &#8211; be strong &amp; have faith. <img src='http://www.larkneville.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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